ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.

When I saw this spider, a whole new world of possibility appeared.  If spiders can make clouds from feathers, what seemingly impossible things might I be able to do?!  All these years without questioning what I’d been taught about how clouds are made… Metaphor is central to the way I make sense of the world. 

The following helps me understand coaching. It describes the overall process for the whole coaching relationship and the shape for each session. I hope it helps you.


C – Connect 

Connecting with the heart of the matter.

What is alive?

O – Open

Opening to wonder, to intuition, possibility and the unexpected.


A – Access 

Accessing the new.  Exploring, meeting, feeling, sensing, naming.

What is here? 

C – Collect

Collecting the fruits.

What is the texture? 

H – Honor 

Honoring the harvest. 

What does great-fullness allow?